Anal sex is something that not that many people are willing to talk about and it is still considered a taboo but, as people's ideologies are changing fast, I thought it would be a great opportunity to talk about it. Reports show that 34% of women have tried anal sex and 8% have anal sex on a regular basis. Its time to see what this minority love about it!
I have been asking some of my girlfriends their opinions of anal sex, to see if any of them have tried it and what they thought. It was pretty clear that they all had a strong opinion on the subject. Some of them loved it while others hated it or have never given it a go.
Now I can only speak for myself, but I love the joys of anal sex and I hope every girl tries it at least once to find out for themselves. For the girls who tried it once and did not like it then I urge you to try it again but this time spend some time learning some tips to make it much more enjoyable.
Why Do Girls Love Anal Sex?
Believe it or not anal sex can feel absolutely amazing. Its a completely different sensation to regular sex and there is an amazing stretch that you just don't get when having regular penetrative sex. As my good friend Jess said, "When I have anal sex there is a feeling of being penetrated deeper and its not the vagina or clitoris, its kind of mixture of the both, a very distinct feeling. It's very hard to describe, but I absolutely love the feeling."
Its naughtier than regular sex but I personally love the feeling of being naughty, it fits my personality very well. My friend Jess agrees with me saying, "I love the feeling of doing something taboo. It gives me such a thrill and is a massive turn on." I could not agree with you more Jess! I love the thrill of being perceived sweet and innocent outside the bedroom and then being a little minx behind closed doors.
Why Does She Hate Anal Sex?
Yes, it can hurt if it is not done properly. You really need to take your time and not rush things. It is not an easy subject to master and some practice is required, but like everything related to sex it gets better the more you practice. Most guys do not consider anal sex from our perspective and think it's as simple as, in out in and approach the task with the lack of patience that it requires. Girls presume that it will hurt so feel very tensed and for some the thought of anal sex can lead to cold sweats and shivers. This will really minimise your chances of ever experiencing the thrill of anal sex so you need to alter your mind set.
A lot of girls have the perception that anal sex is messy. Heather, one of my girlfriends who is not a fan, said, "I can't get it out of my mind that anal sex is dirty and I would be so embarrassed if my partner penetrated me and there was a mess. It would be such a turn off." I totally agree that would be horrible but if you clear your bowels up to an hour before then there should be no problem and you can just relax and enjoy it.
Important Tips About Anal Sex
This is the number one tip so pay attention - lube, lube and even more lube. Unlike the vagina that produces its own natural lubrication the anus does not do this and that's why there is so much pain associated with anal sex. I believe it comes from too many people trying it without lubing up first. This is crazy, it's like sticking a cube through a circle - it just ain't gonna fit. I always use a silicone lube like the Anal Lube Natural as it lasts longer than other types of lube. Make sure you keep on applying the lube during anal sex.
Us girls love being teased and we become much more open when we are really turned on. You guys have to get us in the mood, as I only really enjoy anal sex when I am super horny and open to new ideas and most girls are the same. So guys, next time you want to have anal sex spend a bit of time stimulating our mind, body and soul and then you might get to have your wicked way with us.
The unsexy bit but nevertheless very important. I'm going to stand on my soap box here so bear with me. Disease can be passed with unprotected sex and this includes anal sex. The wall of the rectum is very thin and permeable and a condom is an effective way of reducing the transfer of STIs. Not all girls like sperm in their ass and a condom acts a good barrier. It helps keep the penis clean from any faecal matter but you would be very unlucky if this ever happened to you. I also know that guys like wearing condoms as it makes them last longer which makes them enjoy it more.
What Not to Do
Ok, this is what not to do when having anal sex. Don't presume that all girls do anal so ask first before you stick it in there - if you don't then expect to feel some pain between your legs!
Don't watch porn and expect all girls can take it like porn stars do - they are freaks of nature and us normal girls need to be treated with care. These girls can take an enormous penis with ease and have had years of training.
If are lucky enough to get your lady to treat you to her ass then treat it with respect as you will not like it if she confiscates it from you - you will be one sad puppy.
We always presume that anal sex is from a man to a woman but why not try it the other way around? Don't forget men have a prostate in their rectum and its not that uncommon for guys to try some anal fun. Don't worry it will not make you gay and it's a common fantasy with men. To be a truly great lover I believe that all men need to try it, then they will know how to treat their lover when they return the favour. You can incorporate anal play with each other in a loving relationship.
For beginners to anal sex there are some great anal sex toys out there that you can use. Try the AssBerries from Coochie Shop as they are not too big or intimidating. Remember, whatever you do, have some fun and try different things like lubes, fingers and toys. Just one word of warning - only stick things in your bum that are designed to go there as we don't want an impromptu trip to A&E!
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